I'm sure that most of you reading this have heard the recent rumors surrounding TLC's most famous family (or is that the Duggars???)? I happened upon the Season 5 premiere tonight, which featured the sextuplets fifth birthday party along with plenty of talk about Jon and Kate's "future." Right now they're having some serious marital trouble. At the end of the episode, they both concluded that they were committed to coming together for their kids, and promised to show their children that "married or not" they would have a good working relationship for their kids' sake.
Well, news flash to the both of you: Children don't want their parents to be divorced, but still have a good relationship. Children don't want their parents to be divorced, but get along at birthday parties. Children want their mom to love their dad, and their dad to love their mom, they same way that they love both of their parents. Children do not want their parents to be divorced.
Don't get me wrong: I understand, at least intellectually, the difficulty that must surround your life when you have more money than you need, paparazzi following you constantly, no privacy, concerns about safety, and two sets of multiples totaling eight children. Honestly, life is hard enough without those extra troubles. But please, for crying out loud, quit spouting that nonsense about "getting along for your kids" and "always being there" for them. It doesn't take much personal experience with divorce to know that those phrases, those ideas, are hollow - actions speak louder than words.
It was hard to watch Jon and Kate interact with each other. It's clear that they're both "faking it," and neither of them are happy. I'm sure their kids sense that, too.
Then again, what do you do? If my Grandma Gloria were here, she would say, "Too bad." I can't fix their lives; in fact, I can't change anyone's behavior but my own. Still, it is too bad.
Welcome back to blogging, Beth!
Monday, May 25, 2009
Jon and Kate Plus 8
Posted by Beth Soelberg at 7:16 PM
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Hmmm...maybe I was a little too harsh. Sorry.
Where have you been, girl? :)
I saw that episode too. It was just sad. Jon had huge bags under his eyes and just looked so miserable. Kate looked tired too, but not in the same way. You could tell there was a lot not being said. The whole thing was like watching a train wreck. It made me feel so horrible. Why are they doing this show if it is doing this to their family? Doesn't putting the kids first really mean putting an end to the show? It seems to be Kate who refuses to stop filming. Am I just mean or is that incredibly selfish? The whole thing is just sad. I'm not watching anymore.
No, I'm with you, Meg. They should stop the show now. At any rate, who wants to watch their marriage deteriorate and their children suffer? It seems like they have made enough money from the show, book sales, lectures - maybe it's time to just focus on fixing the family now.
I had never watched the show before I started hearing about the rumors. I watched a few episodes during TLC's marathon this past weekend- and I watched the season premere as well.
Oh my- the tension. There's no way the kids wouldn't feel it too. They are old enough to recognize that theier parents don't like each other much. (Though I have to say, even in the early episodes, i wondered how much they liked each other- her always nagging, commanding and picking on him- and him always looking resentful and annoyed with her.)
It seems pretty clear that he now resents staying home full time with the kids while she's out in the world on her book tours, living the good life (getting all the praise and encouragement that they both deserve really I think.) Granted it's the life they chose. All that holding it in through the years and boom! He's just suddenly realized that he can't take it anymore.
But what do they do? They both quit their jobs. This show IS their jobs now. TLC must pay them so much! Without it could they still maintain their big house and family? That's got to be stressful.
So sorry folks, but FIX IT! Talk to each other, listen to each other, humble yourselves, love each other, go get help, work it out- show or no show. "Staying together for the kids", means making your marriage right for the kids... not just being in the same house or just being good friends.
Ok, I'm done. Glad you're back Beth. I needed that outlet!! :)
I think they should take 6 months to a year off and be completely out of the spot light and try to fix their marriage. I mean who wants to watch their show when they don't even want to be near each other or talk to each other.
They needed counseling about 5 years ago. I understand that it is hard to raise multiples, especially in the public eye. I think they have become so dependent on the media attention for their income that they have pushed themselves into a corner. I mean if they stop the show and cut back on the book tour how can they afford the million dollar plus house? I think they need a break. Stop the show for now. John can go back to work. Kate can stay home. I mean they were messed up in the beginning but they seemed better. Take a few steps back. Focus on your family.
Boy, I don't have to comment at all! You all said what I am thinking and what I would have said. It's nice that we all agree. haha. :)
Glad to have you back Beth!
It IS nice to have you back! I agree with Leanne, I don't really need to comment because I agree with you all. I've read the rumors and seen the pictures and I just don't like anything I've heard from either of them.
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